Abuse can occur in any relationship regardless of sexual orientation or identity. Abuse is not only defined by men controlling women. An imbalance of power can exist in any relationship.
As someone who identifies as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning, you may have fears about leaving the abusive relationship. You will share the same worries any individual wanting to leave an abusive relationship experiences. You might also experience some unique fears and challenges. Here are a few examples:
- Shame or embarrassment. You might be struggling with your sexual orientation or gender-identity. Maybe your abuser uses this to control and hurt you.
- Being believed or taken seriously. You might be worried that if you report the abuse you will be faced with common stereotypes that violence and abuse only occurs between opposite-sex partners.
- Harassment, rejection, bullying. If you are not “out” to everyone, your abuser might threaten to “out” you. You might fear that asking for help will make you a target of harassment, rejection, or bullying because of your sexuality or gender identification.
- Legal protection. You might fear talking to the police or any legal organization because you believe that you will have less legal protection based on your gender or sexual orientation. This is not true.
- Social settings. Because the LGBTQ community tends to be close knit, you may be worried that you will run into your abuser at future social events.
WHO to Contact
UR PRIDE (Regina)
306-586-8811 ext 207
USSU PRIDE (Saskatoon)
TransSask Support Services
The Avenue Community Center (Saskatoon)
306-358-1833 Toll free 1-800-358-1833
Canadian Rainbow Health Coalition